Sunday, October 17, 2010


When we were getting everything ready for Nathan and Alexis' nursery, we chose blue elephants for Nathan and pink butterflies for Alexis. In her passing, the butterfly has become my reminder of her. My mother-in-law got me a necklace that has an amethyst (my birthstone) butterfly on it. I wore it to her funeral service and plan to wear it frequently (even though I am not big on jewelry). We are putting a butterfly on her headstone. My mom and mother-in-law put together a garden in her memory with the flowers from her funeral service. We have a step stone with a beautiful butterfly on it.

And here is the best butterfly story:
During Alexis' funeral service I saw a beautiful yellow butterfly flying around. No one else saw it. When Lee, Luke, and I went back for some alone time with her, I saw a yellow butterfly again. I believe in my heart that it was the same butterfly and that it was a reminder from God that everything was going to be okay.

I know that everytime I see a butterfly I will be reminded of my precious baby girl. In fact, we kept the butterfly decoration up in the nursery as a reminder for Nathan (and everyone else) that our baby girl is always a part of our family. She may not be here physically, but she will forever be here in our hearts and minds.


  1. What a great way to remember Alexis. When my niece passed away in 2002 at 3 months she was very interested in Ladybug toys. That has since been our symbol for remembering Kaylee. Every year on the day she passed away we have Ladybug day. My sister does a different Ladybug themed craft and gives them out with the story of the Ladybug and Kaylee's story to members of her church and the friends and family that help remember her. We release balloons and ladybugs each Ladybug Day to remember her! I hope that you can use the butterfly as a symbol to her ever presence in your family's life!

  2. I love that you kept the butterfly decoration in the nursery. It brought chills to read about the butterfly God sent to Alexis' memorial.